Top 10 Signs of Bad Parenting
Unfortunately, when you become a parent there is no handbook included. Being a good parent is something you learn as you go along. A question that goes through a lot of parent’s mind is “Will I be a good parent?” to which I always respond “if you are asking that question then I would say your already part of the way there” because the parent is already showing that they care. We all want our children to have the correct balance of morals, values and discipline but unfortunately our children will test us along the way and it is important not to give in to there every need and tantrum.
You must remember that you will meet a lot of opinionated mothers and fathers along the way and every parent’s opinions on how to raise a child will be different but this does not mean that you are doing it wrong. You will see that your own mother and mother in law will have their ways of parenting too and that’s great if they offer advise but remember it doesn’t mean that you have to do as they say.
If you feel that your child is misbehaving it could be worth looking to see if any of the below applies to you and your household.
The top 10 sign of bad parenting are likely to be as follows;
1 – Rules – What rules?
A household where kids have no rules and do as they please is a recipe for disaster. Children need to learn what is right and what is wrong and it important to implement this in to there every day lives. If a child has not received any discipline how does the child know that they are doing something wrong. It is important for a child to have a strict regime in the house and stick to it whenever possible.
2 – No Q.T
Yes, children love you buying them treats but children love talking and communicating with you too. I remember my dad used to pick me up from school every Friday and we would go walking along the beach together and talking about our week and I loved it. When I look back at when I was younger these were my memories and not the things my dad bought me. If you do not spend time with your child, your child is likely to act up in other ways to get attention.
If you shout and scream at your kids they will initially be afraid but if they get used to it, it may not bother them anymore and you will feel the need to seek a different option as punishment. Although smacking was something that used to exist (certainly when I was a child). It is no longer advisable and may backfire. If you smack your child it will teach them violence from a young age and they may end developing physiological problems and show aggression to other children.
4 – Treating others badly
Your child watches you and how you interact with other people. It is important to speak nicely to your partner and other elders in front of your child. If you speak badly to others, then your child will believe that this is acceptable and children need to respect their elders.
5 – Too Protective
Let your child make mistakes and you do not always cover for them because if you do eventually they will take you for granted and not be bothered about their mistakes.
6 – No Trust You must trust your child to a certain extent. Other children will complain about your child and that is to be expected but if you believe all of the complaints more than your child then you are showing that you believe your child is a liar. You should always ask for their version of events, if you don’t eventually your child could end up not being honest with you.
7 – Interfering parent
You can not to resolve all of your child’s tiffs and problems, if you do you are not allowing your child to develop socially. This means they will grow to be dependent on you. You must allow your child to hold their own so they are capable of doing so.
8 – Giving your child everything
Do not to spoil your child too much. If you bought your child everything they asked for the one time you say “no” they will kick up a huge fuss. It is important that learn value of money as even as they grow up they will think that they should be bought everything and rely on you financially.
9 – Insults
Name calling your child in public can hurt your child and lower their self-esteem. It is then that your child could resent other children and develop traits of jealousy.
10 – Compare your Child
Every child is different and your child will learn at a different speed to mine. It does not make my child thick if your child picks something up quicker than he does. Although we like reassurance that our children are on track. It is important not to compare your child’s achievements to another child’s. If you constantly put down your child and make them feel stupid, they will lose trust in you or worse still they will believe your insults and give up.